FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
What is a sensual massage?
This could be seen as a trick question, as by definition all massage can be considered sensual to one degree or another.
However, in this context a sensual massage or full body sensual massage, sometimes referred to as FBSM, is an intimate experience that combines Swedish bodywork techniques together with sensual and erotic touch for intentional arousal of the body, usually to orgasm.
Massages are given within your comfort zone with the aim of you embracing intimacy and arousal as a normal human behaviour.
There is a blog page with a longer description of sensual massage.
Is sensual massage a proper massage?
Sensual massage can mean different things to different people of course. However at Sensual Bodyworks, yes most definitely, it is a proper full body massage.
The Relax treatment does not include any erotic content, while the Explore and Adventure treatments have increasing levels of sensual touch and erotic content for arousal.
All massages can be tailored to your specific requirements in terms of both the dynamic of the massage and the sensual and erotic content using the request form that you will be sent after booking.
What are the benefits of sensual massage?
It's been demonstrated many times that human touch is good for both mental and physical health and provides an enormous feeling of well-being.
In addition to its uses for physical therapy and providing pleasure, massage is, above all, a "laying on of hands," a sharing of the gift of human touch.
Heart rate, respiration, and blood pressure go down if they were elevated. Oxytocin production ramps up and adrenaline and cortisol levels decline dramatically, allowing very deep relaxation. Documented benefits over the long run are diverse, ranging from improvement in immune response and to improvement on a wide range of mental activities, like learning speed and exam performance.
All of this is assuming that the touch happens in a calm, safe, non-threatening context. The more trust the recipient has for the provider, the greater the benefit.
Sensual massage vs. Tantric massage - are they the same thing?
There are similarities in that both provide you the opportunity to explore your sexual and sensual energies in a safe space, and my massages incorporate elements that are very similar in nature to a Tantric massage and Yoni massage.
I describe my approach as humanistic, as the experience focuses on us as sensual and sexual beings rather than spiritual. The massage is about taking us back to our deepest feelings of intimacy, sensuality and arousal, and does not include spiritual aspects, breathing exercises, meditation or ritual that are typically part of a Tantric massage.
Why do women book a sensual massage?
Some are people are surprised that women book a sensual massage, after all, most women can find sex quite easily by walking into a bar or these days using a dating App. However, a sensual massage is far more than just an erotic experience, it is first and foremost a proper full body massage. Treatments provide relaxation and a feeling of well being, as well as providing a release. Perhaps more importantly, many options available don't guarantee a good experience. They can come with complications, and typically mean considering someone else’s needs and agenda as well as your own.
By contrast, a sensual massage with a professional, in a safe and controlled environment, is all about you. There is no need to consider anyones needs or satisfaction other than your own.
Some of the reasons clients book a sensual massage are:
I am stressed and/or tense and want an unconditional orgasmic release.
Difficulty reaching orgasm, anorgasmia / situational anorgasmia.
Curiosity and satisfying a fantasy.
Lack of sexual stimulation in my relationship.
Recently my libido has increased considerably.
Guilt/Morality/Shame around sex.
Letting go of control and trusting others with it.
Recovering from sexual aggression/abuse.
Lack of skill/knowledge by myself and partner.
I am on holiday/business so free to explore my erotic needs.
Postmenopausal and still very sexual and/or my partner is not.
Convenience and self-care for busy professionals who don’t want a relationship.
Separated/Divorced/Widowed, I would still like a sexual release but not ready for relationship.
I have cultural or religious restrictions and I need a safe place to explore my sexuality.
Exploration of sexual practices as yet untried or unwanted by my partner.
Poor body image and lack of sexual self-esteem.
I want my partner to watch me have a sensual massage (cuckold massage).
I want my partner to give me a 4-hands massage with the masseur.
I want to explore my bisexuality with a male & female masseur couple.
I want to feel desired and dominated (sensual domination).
What type of clients visit?
I see female clients of all ages, body types, ethnicities and walks of life, there is no common demographic. Most clients are aged between 30 and 60 years of age, but I welcome younger and older clients too.
Body type is not important as long as you are reasonably fit and healthy with no serious medical issues. I'm happy to see clients with disabilities and certain chronic conditions including, but not limited to, multiple sclerosis (MS), chronic fatigue syndrome/myalgic encephalomyelitis (CFS/ME) and fibromyalgia subject to a consultation first.
Do you massage men as well as women?
No I don’t. I specialise in sensual massage for women. I can recommend a couple of masseurs locally that do, get in touch and I'll be happy to share details. You might also take a look at Massage Exchange.
I do work with other male and female masseurs for couples massages.
Tell me more about yourself?
I'm a male masseur in my early fifties. I came to massage later in life and have found a real passion for it. I have a happy and stable family life with a long-term partner and children that are growing up fast.
I'm 175cm tall with solid build and like to keep fit. I'm happy to share more information and pictures if required once we've had a conversation.
What training and qualifications do you have?
I have trained with Colin Richards of Intimacy Matters in sensual massage for women. Colin has been helping men, women and couples in the areas of sexual fulfilment, performance and relationships since 2006. Colin pioneered his Psychosensual Treatment that combines his skills as a sensual body worker with his knowledge in emotional behaviours.
I am available to work with Colin giving a 4-hands massage at his London treatment room. Read my review of Colin's workshops here.
I have trained and have Diplomas in Swedish full body massage and hot stone massage and have an interest in a number of other massage modalities.
I am a member of the Guild of Holistic Therapists.
Where are you located?
I work from home at a private and discrete rural location on the Leicestershire / Warwickshire border. There is secure parking away from the road and no nosy neighbours. It is easily accessible from the motorway network, with the M1, M69 & M6 all being less than 10 minutes away. I use a dedicated room to work from with adjoining bathroom for you to change and shower.
If you are planning to travel by train, I would be happy to collect and / or drop you off at a local station for a nominal charge. The nearest stations in order of distance are Hinckley, Nuneaton, Rugby. Please check for availability and cost before booking.
I'm also available for visits to your home or hotel in a 50-mile radius including Birmingham, Coventry, Derby, Leicester, Northampton, Nottingham, Milton Keynes and beyond by special arrangement. I'm available to visit London. For outcalls I bring a portable treatment table, oils, music and few other items to heighten the senses, and just ask you to provide some towels.
What are your opening times?
I am available daily 7 days a week between 9AM and 11PM by appointment only. Other times may be available by special arrangement.
Will I see anyone else when visiting?
You will only see me when visiting, or another masseur if you have booked a 4 hand or couples massage. No one else will be on the premises and I always allow at least 30 minutes between appointments so you won't bump into any other clients.
What does the treatment look like?
The treatment room is dark, warm and moody with pitch blue walls, candles and dim lights. There is an adjoining shower room for your private use when visiting. Take a look around the Virtual Tour.
Do you play music during the massage?
I usually play music during the massage, my go to playlist on Spotify is Sensual Massage Chillout. However if you would prefer something different I'd be happy to play that instead, or if you would prefer silence that is fine too. Just let me know your preferences.
Do I need to bring anything with me?
If you want to freshen up before and/or after the massage you are welcome to. The treatment room has an adjoining shower room. There are fresh towels, a selection of toiletries and a hair dryer available. If you have preferred toiletries feel free to bring your own and also your own hair brush is recommended.
Is there anything I need for 'Visit You' options?
When visiting you I bring a treatment table, oil and a few accesories for your enjoyment. I ask that you provide some towels, ideally two large bath sheets, a couple of smaller towels.
With oil on your skin you can feel colder than normal so I recommend increasing the room temperature by a couple of degrees more than you would normally have it. Dimming the lights, closing the curtains and lighting a few candles can also add to the ambiance and help you relax.
Finally, having some relaxing music adds to the experience for most people. I bring a portable music player but if you already have one you can of course use if preferred.
How do I book and pay?
You can book through the website which will show my availability or get in touch by email, text and/or phone. I don't take same day bookings.
Once a provisional booking has been made, you'll be asked to pay a £30 deposit within 72 hours, and in any case prior to the appointment, to confirm the booking. The balance can be paid on the day of the massage. Payment can be by cash or bank transfer. Payment by PayPal and credit card coming soon.
I will also ask you to complete a Request & Authorisation form. This is to provide some important information about yourself including about your fitness and any medical issues. In addition you can specify what dynamic you want during the massage, what types of touch and/or arousal you would like as well as setting any boundaries.
What if I feel unwell?
If you feel unwell and have flu or cold like symptoms then unfortuantly your treatment cannot go ahead. Additionally if you have had stomach upset or flu/cold like symptoms within the 48 hours prior to your appointment I respectfully ask that you get in touch and reschedule. Your deposit and/or payment will be carried forward for up to three months so you won't lose out financially in doing so.
Additional arrangements and precautions regarding Coronavirus here.
What if I need to cancel my appointment?
Should you need to cancel due to unforeseen circumstances don't worry. As long as you give at least 24 hours notice of needing to cancel an appointment you won't need to pay another deposit when rebooking.
What happens during an appointment?
Appointments are 30 minutes longer than the treatment time to ensure a relaxed and unhurried experience. I also reserve a minimum 30 minutes between appointments to give time to prepare the room and ensure you won't see other clients arriving or leaving.
You will have completed a Request & Authorise form before arriving where you will have prioritised the dynamic of the massage and type of touch and arousal you would like.
On arrival you will be offered refreshments, while we have a conversation about your treatment, what your motivation is and what you want to get out of it. This is a chance for you to ask any questions you may still have and allow you to relax and feel comfortable before the treatment begins.
When you are ready, I will show you to the massage room. I will leave you to change and have a shower to freshen up if you wish and get comfortable on the treatment table.
When the massage is complete, I will leave the room. When you are ready, you may have shower if you wish before dressing. If you have time, I would like to have another conversation to see how you feel and if the massage delivered all that you had hoped.
What if I feel uncomfortable during the massage?
The massage is all about you, your preferences and boundaries. The starting point is the request form that you will have completed but you may be unsure about some things and you can of course change your mind at any time.
I play close attention to your responses and aim to adjust accordingly if I feel it's needed but non the less if at any point you feel uncomfortable with anything at all please do let me know right away. As a nation we can sometimes be reluctant to speak out if not happy but with an intimate treatment such as sensual massage it’s vital you feel able to.
Please rest assured there will be no drama and you will never offend in anyway. If you want to alter the massage or stop altogether that is absolutely fine. Your enjoyment, comfort and wellbeing is the priority.
Can I bring a friend or partner?
Yes, you are very welcome to come along with your partner or a friend. They are free to wait in an adjacent room, sit and watch the massage treatment being given and/or join in to give a 4-hands massage. There is no additional charge.
Can I book for a friend or partner, and can it be a surprise?
Yes, you can book for someone else, however the person having the massage must complete a request form themselves before arriving. Consent is paramount and therefore the nature of the massage cannot be a surprise.
Will the masseur be naked?
It's your choice whether the masseur is naked or clothed. Some people are more comfortable if the masseur remains clothed, while others feel it enhances the experience if the masseur is also naked. You can specify your preference when competing the request form after booking.
Can I touch the masseur?
For some people reciprocal touch is important to their experience. If you want to touch me in anyway you can, and nothing you do is wrong. However there is no expectation or obligation to do so.
Do you use any toys and is it hygenic?
I am able to use toys during erotic phases of the massage, it is an option on the request forms. I typically use Satisfyer Pro 2 or 3. They are cleaned throughly and disinfected after each use.
You are also welcome to bring your own toys if you would prefer and/or I have brand new and boxed Satisfyer Pro toys available to purchase when you visit for your exclusive use and to take away.
What type of massage oil do you use?
I use unscented grape seed or almond oil. If you have any preferences or allergies let me know, I'd be happy to obtain different oils if you need or prefer.
What should I do before a sensual massage?
Here are some things to do ahead of your massage:
Bath or Shower.
Have a warm bath or shower before arriving for a massage, you're welcome to freshen up when you arrive. As well as being confident that you are nice and clean, a warn bath or shower will help start the relaxation process. However, avoid getting your hair wet (or dry after) as wet hair can make you feel cold during the massage.
Ideally remove all jewellery, both to avoid any damage but also to allow free movement during the massage.
What should I do after a sensual massage?
You've had your massage and you should be feeling nice and relaxed. Here are some tips to help the benefits last as long as possible.
If you do nothing else do this. Massage releases toxins in your body and water is needed to help flush them out so skip the alcohol and caffeine and drink plenty of water.
Fuel the body.
Have a snack to hand after a massage. Massage can speed up your circulatory and digestives systems, having something to eat can avoid you feeling light-headed.
Take it Easy.
You feel relaxed, calm and content. Try to book your massage for a time when you know you can go home afterwards. Put your feet up, read a book, have a soak in the tub or take a nap. Whatever works for you to help prolong that calm feeling of wellbeing.
With the relaxation and release that a sensual massage can provide, it can be normal to want to let go of some emotional baggage too. You may feel elated or energised, but if you've been stressed or holding on to negative feelings for a while, as the barriers come down you may become emotional and feel the need to cry. This is perfectly normal, don't fight it, allow it to happen. It can leave you feeling much better afterwards.
Book your next massage.
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Do you offer any discounts?
I'm currently offering the following discounts:
Book and pay for 3 treatments in advance and receive up to £30 off each visit (Adventure £30 / Explore £20 / Relax £10).
For example the Adventure massage normally £150, is £360 for 3
Recommend me to someone you know and ask them to mention your name when booking and receive a £20 discount on your next treatment taken within 6 months AND the person you refer will also receive a £10 discount on their first booking.
Post a review on Trustpilot, Google, Tripadvisor or Scoot within 1 month of your treatment and receive £10 discount on you next visit. Post your review on multiple different review sites and receive £10 discount for each one.
Discounts can be used in conjunction which each other and apply to all full price Relax, Explore & Adventure treatments excluding special offer promotions.